by Elliot Lyons
For some people, not failing is considered success.
The fear of failure has gripped them so tightly that its absence is cause for applause.
And it is a victory, but the outlook it represents limits what they can ultimately achieve, setting the bar too low.
True success requires growth, and growing means learning to feel excitement in uncertainty. This excitement is based in the act of using challenges to overcome our fears, to level-up our game. It’s a feeling that something different is possible, and that the road to our destination will have some bumps—we may even have to pause for a bit, gather our strength, or have to turn back, retracing our steps to figure out where we went wrong.
It’s knowing that our ultimate success relies heavily on failure and its lessons. This is a mental shift from avoiding fear to going towards it.
As we confront our fears, and learn from our failures, our confidence in our abilities to cope with unknown situations grows. We begin to learn that there’s a special value in fear that’s only awakened when we give it a different perspective.
By chasing the possibilities for new selves contained in confronting fear, we go from thinking about how to avoid failure to how we can reach our highest potentials. This is a mindset that is focused on growth, and if we find ourselves not growing, we make the necessary changes.
That’s all there is to it.
Now, fearing failure takes a backseat to what we actually want, which is to thrive and not merely survive. Survival puts success in terms of not failing, an absence of something undesired, while thriving sees failure as an invitation to grow.
This changes the whole way we look at the world because there will be opportunities everywhere.
This is where we become hungry for life itself.
And some people in our lives may not understand what we’re doing.
But that doesn’t matter because we know where we’re headed.
For more on fear, check out "My biggest fear" and "Why there's freedom in the deepest levels of our anxieties."